It's official: the pandemic is over. 2022 is the year of celebrity gossip. America is tired of the wages of death wrought by COVID & its infinite mutations; of the outrageous & offensive inflation driving up the cost of living in every area from housing to gasoline to groceries & wood. We want nothing to do with the fact that our primary methods of communication & media are being snatched up by a handful of billionaires & our pool of political candidates is reduced to a few powerful families that include the Clintons, Trumps, Bushes & Kennedys. And don't even get us started on the ever-rising climate. Summer's coming and who wants to think about all the heatwave deaths, hurricanes, tornadoes & other climate change-related suffering that's to come?
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It's not just Musk. |
We have no will to talk about these pressing issues. We've moved on to bigger things like The Slap & the public trial of Johnny Depp & Amber Heard. What's more, the public has already written their own narrative for these two totally unrelated stories. They go like this: both of these incredibly wealthy, famous celebrity men are victims of abuse by the women in their lives. And we (society) need to talk about it. Like some kind of fucking Afterschool Special.
Toxic femininity is to blame, they tell us. Justice For Johnny protesters are out in force outside the courtroom & fill the Youtube chats with vitriol toward Amber Heard & women like her daily. Meanwhile, Will Smith's public assault of Chris Rock is blamed on the closest adjacent woman in his life--his wife. All the articles since that time have focused on their dysfunctional relationship, her so-called "infidelity" (never mind that he also has a history of sleeping around that predates her August Alsina entanglement) & Jada's attitude. For some fucking reason I can't comprehend. [Church Lady voice]: Could it be...MISOGYNY?
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The Totally-Not-Biased Public |
Depp was already denied a chance to sue for libel against The Sun newspaper in Britain which labeled him a "wife beater," as the courts there found the claim to be "substantially true" based on all the available evidence. In other words, the British courts found Depp guilty of being a wife beater. Not the court of public opinion, the actual courts. And the world saw with their own eyes that Smith smacked the shit out of Rock on live TV. He walked onstage, assaulted another celebrity, went back to his seat, screamed obscenities & proceeded to dance all night to his own music after receiving an Academy Award. But it's somehow the women's fault. These men, not only adults but over-the-hill 50-something OLD men, are not held accountable for a single thing they do. They're apparently zombies going through life on autopilot, being lured into relationships by these all-powerful witches and then held there by force and hypnotized into doing things like assaulting people at the Oscars.
It's typical America. We had #MeToo & the Brian Laundrie/Gabby Petito tragedy, now we have to undo it by showing that women can be evil too. (Never mind that 2 of the movement's most visible targets, namely Bill Cosby who was released from prison on a technicality & Louis CK who recently became the 1st comedian to receive a Grammy for an album in which he admits to sexual abuse, suffered no lasting repercussions for their actions). Even if it means excusing the violent actions of wealthy, privileged grown ass men.
Let me be clear: If Amber Heard hit Johnny Depp as she claims on the tape, that's also a crime for which she should be charged. But Depp has already been found guilty of domestic abuse by a British court & everyone's ignoring that. They're also downplaying his lifelong polysubstance addiction, his admission that he mutilated his own finger & smeared blood all over the house, wrote graphic violent threats about raping his wife's burnt corpse & minimizing all the vile verbal abuse caught on tape that we can hear with our own ears ("Cuuuuunt!", etc). He's also a man in his 50's dating a 20-something. Not illegal but kinda gross. And everyone expects her to be on the same maturity level as Grandfather Time which is not how that works. At this point it wouldn't matter WHAT came out about his actions in the relationship--people have made up their minds.
Like attracts like. Domestic abuse is a dynamic involving 2 people. If it doesn't end, someone ends up getting killed (usually the woman). I'm glad Johnny & Amber ended things before it got to that point but the fact that the tawdry details are being broadcast to the public years later is so ridiculous they should both be ashamed. Instead he's being lauded as some kind of hero. People who've heard bits and pieces of recordings from a 4-year relationship are suddenly experts on who was the bad guy when in all likelihood they both were the baddies at various points. The fact that he's airing it out publicly all these years later makes him look slightly worse (more petty) if anything. The bottom line: They're both too damn old for this & so are most of us.
I have no problem with substance use, but when a person uses that many different drugs for that long, there's no denying it can have an effect on mood & behavior. He should've snapped out of it back when River Phoenix died suspiciously in his club The Viper Room in the '90s. Amber sounds like a Borderline Personality based on her fear of him abandoning her during fights (and her propensity for picking them). And Borderlines are disasters in relationships. Lying, cheating, manipulating, raging disasters. I'm glad that's getting attention if nothing else, but it has NOTHING to do with women in general. It's a personality disorder that this one woman in particular is suffering from. Their relationship is very reminiscent of the Phil/Brynn Hartman dynamic in which he'd go to bed or walk away during their arguments and she'd get enraged which eventually lead to their tragic murder/suicide. As I said, I'm glad they ended it. But there's no clear good guy/bad guy here & no "teachable moment" other than that leaving unhealthy relationships is important if you want to stay alive. America just wants a crusade & a distraction.