On the "Goal Digger" Epidemic 🪙⛏

Hoes really have the nerve to say shit like.....

"Looking for a soulmate/twin flame.  Someone to connect with on a deep spiritual level.  No time for surface-level shit in 2026.  Must have a strong work ethic!  Broke mfs need not apply."

....With a straight face.
0% awareness of the contradiction.  😒

It would appear that you're mixing up your dating resume with your actual resume, love.  Unless you're hiring seasonal help or seeking a sponsor for your Rent-A-Coochie startup, things like "work ethic", job title or your partner's checking account balance are neither relevant nor any of your damn business.   As long as they're not coming at you with their hands out or constantly being dragged into court for late child support, writing hot checks or other legal fuckery, their finances are not your concern (and vice versa). 

You're both autonomous, grown-ass adults, and that doesn't change when you enter a relationship or even a marriage.  Trying to outsource basic adulting tasks like earning a living/handing the finances or cooking/cleaning/grocery shopping is a one-way trip to Codependence Country and Learned HelplessnessLand.  This brand of passive laziness makes it harder to leave if the relationship goes South or even becomes abusive, which it often does due to resentment when you both serve as workhorses for each other instead of actual romantic partners.  I know because I've SEEN'T it up close.  

Obviously you don't wanna take on your partner's debt or legal headaches, so you have a right (and a responsibility if you're indeed responsible) to make sure they're not hiding anything in that regard before signing marriage or mortgage papers.  But that's about as far as your "rights" extend.  Digging through your partner's W2s, checking your spouse's bank balance, pay stubs or other private financial records is not only tacky but batshit crazy.  It's also a massive red flag that reveals your true motives if they somehow missed the verbal warnings. 

The truth is, no one has a right to demand that another person hand over their money or possessions just because they entered a relationship or marriage.  The entitlement would be laughable if not so delusionally arrogant!  Who do you think you are?  Nobody owes your grown ass a damn thing in this world that you didn't earn--not your parents, your spouse, your 8th grade gym teacher...  Merely possessing a pussy does not give you the right to hold your partner's financial account ransom.  I have one myself, a nice one, and so does half the human population.  While they're certainly a plus, you still have to treat people with respect and take care of your basic self-care tasks.   And bepenised people (men) can do their own housework/portion of the parenting too.  Do all the things you'd fucking do if you were single, and stop treating your partner like The Help or The Bank!

If you want a higher living standard, take another job or work overtime.  Invest in the stock market or another passive source of income.  I really DGAF how you get your "side money".  I'm perfectly content with my lifestyle.  My bills are paid and I don't owe a dime in debt, taxes or unpaid bills.  My car is paid for in full and I never have trouble paying the rent on time.  Whether you're impressed with my stuff is another story, but at least it's MINE free and clear.   I'm not in over my head, working myself to an early grave to buy shit I can't afford to impress people I can't fucking stand.  I have extra time and extra space, which will always be more important than extra STUFF.  I had time to write this screed...





If Women Were Honest...

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You're not fooling anybody with terms like "work ethic"; this ain't a Zip Recruiter ad.  If you're gonna be a shameless moneyhungry skankbot, at least have the guts to say it wit ya chest.  Here's how I envision a more honest dating ad: 

"Grown-ass woman seeking replacement Father Fig to be my walking ATM.  Duties include funding my lifestyle, opening jars and fixing stuff around the house (that you'll buy or build).   Must buy me designer shit and take me to exotic places on your dime.  I want excitement and adventure and to keep up with the Joneses and then make the Joneses eat my dust.  I want my friends to be so jealous they turn 50 shades of green; for total strangers to cry themselves to sleep after one look at my stunning social media photos in Bora Bora and Antigua and Dubai.  I want to escape into a world of make-believe and play acting that puts my own inner child to shame. She was always a sniveling loser anyway.

Oh yeah, I fully intend to use sex and physical intimacy as a reward/punishment in our relationship, as it holds no value to me outside of its ability to "motivate" (read: control)  you.  If you're lucky and be a good little sponso--, err, spouse, you might even get missionary 2x a year-- your birthday and 4th of July.  Or Fat Tuesday and Thanksgiving.  Depending on my mood.  Anyway, love you Snookums!" 

What'd I leave out?

Exclusion Works Both Ways

*Pandemic

Let me be clear:  It's your prerogative to avoid "broke bitches" if you so choose.  While I may think it's petty, superficial and rude, I'd never try and deprive you of that freedom.  Dating and relationships are inherently exclusionary and you don't owe your affection to anyone, nor do you owe anyone an explanation for WHY you rejected them.  Any explanation you do give is a courtesy. 

By the same turn, both "broke bitches" and wealthy candidates alike reserve the right to shut your shameless gold digging ass down, no questions asked.  If you were to ask why, we'd likely tell you that your motives are repulsive; that no person rich, poor or in between wants to deal with an ungrateful, entitled womanchild bleeding them dry for the rest of their days! It's the behavior that's intolerable; the size of the victim's bank acct. is a non-factor.  NOBODY wants to be used for what they have or what they can do for someone, especially in a totally optional relationship that's supposed to be about love!

Which brings me to my next point:  you'll never know whether I'm in the former or latter category: dead broke or quietly sitting on a gold mine.  (Maybe it's because I'm genuinely poor.  But maybe it's because truly wealthy people who come from generations of wealth know not to flaunt their money, nor to blow it on flashy status symbols that depreciate before you even get them off the lot.  They know it's better to invest that money in stocks and bonds or put it in a savings account where it will passively draw interest that you can live off later.  That dressing casually serves a dual purpose:  avoiding unwanted attention from criminal jewelry snatchers and legal thieves like the IRS and FBI who can put you in the poor house for the rest of your days if you put yourself on their radar.   

We--err, THEY--never flash fat stacks of cash like the idiots in rap videos, instead spreading their wealth among multiple diverse mediums ranging from actual gold coins to Bitcoins.  Safes full of cash surrounded by loaded guns are another good option, or so I hear.  Lot harder for the three-letter agencies to account for and collect taxes on it that way.  

While having a bank account is pretty much required in this day and age, the downsides are also massive:  the IRS is notified automatically when a person withdraws over $10,000 in a single business day, for instance.  And it's becoming increasingly common for crypto scammers to drain the personal and business accounts of elderly people in countries like Australia, the U.S., Canada and the U.K. without the bank ever sending the victims a single automated notification (which they've all signed up for).  This money just vanishes and is almost never retrieved.  Entire nest eggs and life savings, gone in an instant.  Between that and the overdraft fees, daily spending limits, temporary "POS purchase holds" that are often as much as the actual charge and can take 5 days to be refunded... let's just say banks don't have a lot going for them.  The customer bears nearly the entire burden for all of this.   

Again, It wouldn't matter whether I was one of these theoretical old money Nepo baby hags or a homeless panhandler posting this from an internet cafe--either way, I'd never blow my dough on big stupid purchases for an able-bodied partner who can get it herself.  I'm not a big spender even on myself; I'm low-maintenance and have nothing to prove.  If you do, may I suggest  working through that in therapy.  It's okay to enjoy the finer things in life, provided you don't mind paying for them yourself and don't actually need them to be happy.  Nice things are called "nice" for a reason... because that's all they are:  Nice, not necessary.  Sometimes it takes a major health catastrophe or loss of a loved one to realize what really matters, and still, and some people never do.

Unless a mofo is openly living their paypig kink, it should be considered shameful to exhibit even the mildest gold digger behavior.  And lesbians, there truly is no place for this heteronormative transactional nonsense in our community.  If you as a self-proclaimed "goaldigger" wouldn't be thrilled at the prospect of dating another person who identified as such, why would you think anyone else would be?   

In closing, I'd implore anyone thinking of getting hitched in 2026 to have your lawyer draft a pre-nup or at least a strongly worded post-nup.  With U.S. divorce rates hovering around 40-50% for first marriages and even higher for subsequent ones, it would be foolish to do otherwise.  Nobody thinks their blissful union will fall into this half of the married population, but that's magical thinking.  Or wishful thinking.  Or failure to think at all.  In any case, it's a good way to lose your life's hard-earned savings. 


(Sorry if this doesn't sound very "radfem" but it needs to be said.  You can't be outraged at (legal) old guy/young girl relationships that are clearly based on his money and her looks when you seek out the same thing in your relationships.  It's a transaction, just like how a man buys a lapdance in a strip club or a sex act from a prostitute in the streets.  When you present yourself as some kind of prize to be awarded to the highest bidder, you render yourself a high-priced prostitute.  If some of you put as much work into just getting your own shit as you put into manipulating people, you'd be set for life). 

Privilege vs. Power: How Identity Politics Halts Progress

Feminism does not mean co-signing everything a woman does simply because she's female.  3rd wave feminism is an oxymoron and the people who subscribe to it, actual morons.  Yes, I'd love to see a female president in my lifetime after 250 years of male rulers, but I didn't vote for Hillary or Kamala, nor would I have voted for Tulsi Gabbard or Elizabeth Warren or Roseanne Barr.  Shirley Chisholm?  Hell yeah!  Jill Stein?  Absolutely, if my state allowed 3rd party votes or write-ins.  But that's based on policies and behavior that goes beyond their stated views or superficial traits (race, sex). 

Sure, women have the right to be video vixens & strippers and hookers and Playboy bunnies and tradwives & similarly brainless things, but that doesn't mean I'm obligated to support them in that.  More importantly, when I call them out it doesn't make me "anti-woman" or anti-feminist.  It makes me a woman with an opinion that feminism fought to allow me to have.

I stand with Black people & all oppressed minorities against their oppressors, but that doesn't mean everything every minority individual says or does is worth defending.  Diddy, R. Kelly, Michael Vick, OJ Simpson, the Sinaloa cartel, MS-13, Bill Cosby, Hamas, President Obama, Tawana Brawley, Chris Brown, Nicki Minaj, Kanye West... the list goes on.  These people and groups are NOT above criticism based on their skin tone or the hardship that comes with it, nor does my criticism imply that I'm racist or don't acknowledge that hardship.  Jeffrey Dahmer was a gay man but he also killed/cannibalized gay men, therefore my condemnation of him is not "anti-gay".  



Privilege vs. Power

Maleness = privilege; the ladder = power

You cease to be a victim the moment you become a victimizer.  No billionaire on the planet is oppressed or marginalized in any meaningful way regardless of their race or sex.  While white skin and male anatomy definitely remove a few hurdles in life, that's privilege, not power.  Privilege is an absence of obstacles.  Power is the added ability to control others & the outcome of situations that others would be at the mercy of.   

When you can walk through airports all over the world with no TSA checks like Epstein (a Jew) after decades of raping/trafficking underage girls, or be a serial rapist of men, women and children as young as 10 and have people killed like Diddy (a Black man), and not spend ONE DAY IN PRISON for it or even have it mentioned at your trial, that's power.  Power is the ability to pay off judges and prosecutors, to issue NDA's that cover illegal acts & bully hoardes of people into silence about their own experiences.  It's handpicking the next tween sensation/industry plant to be groomed & pushed on the public like Bieber or Billie Eilish or Katy Perry or Milli Vanilli or Fletcher while ignoring actual talent.  Power is the ability to commit illegal, evil acts and still be treated like a V.I.P.  To buy up newspapers & social media platforms & influence society at a macro level.  To set trends, make or break careers.  Declare war silently with drones & sneak attacks.  To determine who lives and dies, who eats & who starves.  To buy off politicians & be granted unfair advantages.  To control the food supply, the banks, the nukes and the natural resources of this planet.  

Black Rock is power.  Israel is power.  Military contractors like Halliburton & Raytheon are power.  NAFTA, the 3 Strikes Crime Bill, the Affordable Care Act, the Big Beautiful Bill & other deceptively-named wide reaching bills are examples of power transfers from the weak to the strong.  Bezos, Musk, Maxwell, Zuckerberg, Sackler, the Royal Family... that's power.  A poor ignorant redneck in West Virginia has privilege, not power.  And all his racist ranting is because he's acutely aware of it.  His race is the only thing he DOES have, so he clings to it with all his might to convince himself he's not a total failure in life.  His anger is justified but badly misdirected.  Unless he picks up a gun and walks into a school, church, grocery store or other public venue and starts mowing people down, he has no power to influence your life or mine.  Politicians and billionaires of all races, political affiliations & persuasions DO.  

When you align yourself with bad people because you share superficial traits like sex, sexual orientation, race or religion, you aid the power imbalance that is killing the planet & ruining our lives.  Gloria Steinem is a woman and a feminist who looks like me (white), but she doesn't represent me because I've never worked for the CIA or owned a print publication & do not have a net worth in the millions.  I do NOT believe that working outside the home is innately empowering.  It only means that 100% instead of 50% of the adult population is now available for wage slavery & exploitation.  More workers = less pay for each individual worker & the ability to fire anyone who stands up for themselves, knowing you can just hire someone else in their place (or hire NO one in their place and just divide their responsibilities up among existing workers).  It means mothers no longer get to stay home and bond with/care for their children.  Couples are forced to pay for expensive, neglectful childcare and the children suffer. 

Ask any Black working mother from the '60s or '70s whether she found work "empowering" and prepare to be laughed at.  Now we're all in that position.  That was the goal of Steinem's CIA-backed feminism crusade whether she knew it or not.  Working outside the home should be a choice; something you do because you have a talent to share with the world, not something you have to do to avoid starvation.  There's more than enough wealth & resources to pay for this many times over but it's being hoarded in tax havens by a powerful few who don't even pay federal taxes on it.  AND AMERICAN IDIOTS DEFEND THEIR "RIGHT" TO DO IT.

Work is only empowering when it's compensated fairly & when pay keeps pace with the cost of living.  HAVING to work and not being paid fairly is indentured servitude.  You canNOT do/be/have it all, nor can I.  That mindset shaves years off your life via stress, sleep deprivation, increased blood pressure, poor health choices & self-neglect.  This is why the sad phrase "self-care is revolutionary" exists.  Because simply taking a minute to goddamned BREATHE outside of work IS revolutionary when you live in a capitalist hellscape like the U.S.  A system whose only intention is to use you up and throw you away once you break down, replacing you with a freshly propagandized able-bodied worker before your funeral.  THEN they have the nerve to whine about low birth rates!  Maybe stop making the planet unlivable and life unaffordable if you want people to bring new defenseless lives into the world.   

Where was I going with this?  Oh yeah, capitalism blows and identity politics is irrational tribalism.  Class solidarity > everything.  

  

History Lesson: Iran Before and After U.S. Intervention

 

This was the Iran of the 1960s and '70s:  Women dressed in the fashions of the day enjoying time with friends of both sexes, studying in universities and participating in the workforce.  The country had a secular democratically-elected leader and was considered a safe oasis in the Middle Eastern desert for Western countries like the U.S. and Great Britain.  The way Israel is seen today.







...and this is Iran from 1979 to the present day.  After Jimmy Carter formed a secret alliance with Ayatollah Khomeini, putting "U.S. interests" ahead of human rights and freedom for the people of Iran.  Like all the other presidents before and after him, he stuck his nose where it didn't belong & the locals of the region paid (and continue to pay) dearly.  To his credit, Carter seemed to feel great remorse about this for the rest of his life, making statements like the following: 

But the damage was done.  Carter's otherwise admirable legacy (well, compared to other presidents of the 20th-21st Centuries) was tarnished, forever blemished by the suffering he brought to the region.

While Carter gets most of the heat for turning Iran into an Islamic fascist shithole, I'm sure the CIA and other three-letter deep state agencies played an even bigger role in this massive, monumental fuck-up.  Just like they did by installing the "Jamaican Labour Party" (JLP) (read: CIA) puppet Edward Seaga in 1980s Jamaica and illegally funding the Contras in Nicaragua around the same time... to name a few of their Greatest Hits.

As an American I'd just like to offer my meaningless but sincere apologies to all the women & girls of Iran, past and present.  Please know that not all of us (or even fully half of us) support U.S. intervention and meddling abroad.  In fact many violently oppose it, whether for altruistic reasons or selfish personal ones like keeping our own people safe from terrorist blowback.  Like the Middle East, the U.S. is run by dogmatic hypermasculine aggressors who pursue their own selfish agendas at the cost of countless human lives.  Freedom and democracy are but an illusion and the few freedoms we do have are as fragile as those of pre-1979 Iran.  

Unfortunately too few Americans accept this, preferring instead to blame Islam or whatever belief/economic system the people of faraway lands subscribe to.  The truth is, Christian fascism, crony capitalism and Western neo-liberalism are every bit as dangerous to democracy and quality of life here as Islamic militancy, communism and Sharia law are to the people of our "enemy" nations abroad.   

COVID or Flu? A Quick Biology Lesson

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Location of sialic acid (flu) receptors in the body.





Location of ACE-2 (COVID) receptors in the body.

For anyone wondering how a "respiratory virus" can cause such widespread and baffling symptoms, the reason is simple:  COVID never was a "respiratory virus" to begin with.  In addition to its horrific immune-suppressing effects, COVID attaches to receptors located in practically every organ system of the body, which means it can cause symptoms in any of those systems.  Influenza attaches to totally different receptors located primarily in the throat and lungs. 

COVID's onset is typically 3-6 days after exposure, and symptoms generally last up to 2 weeks (or longer with Long COVID).  Symptoms can creep up gradually and may be anywhere from nearly asymptomatic (like mild allergies) to severe, and they often get better and worse in "waves".  Flu, on the other hand, hits hard and fast with severe fatigue, full-body muscle aches and respiratory symptoms like coughing and sneezing.  Symptoms can be quite similar for some, but influenza is NOT associated with changes in taste or smell.  COVID is also far more infectious (contagious) than influenza, and that aspect is getting worse with each mutation.  

The R-naught value of a virus is the number of people one sick person is likely to infect.  Here are the R0 values for COVID and flu:

R0 values for influenza:  1.2 to 1.8

R0 values for COVID (Omicron strain):  9.5


To make it plain:  if someone has influenza of any strain, they're likely to infect, at most, 2 other people.  If they have COVID, they're likely to infect NINE others. 

Some of those infected may not have severe symptoms immediately, but COVID causes changes to the body that increase a person's risk of heart attack and stroke (among other things) for months or years after infection--even totally asymptomatic ones.  Influenza shares this trait, but because it's less infectious it doesn't pose as big a threat as COVID, which generally surges twice per year and may have multiple strains circulating at once, like the Nimbus and Stratus variants.  Flu peaks in the winter months and generally only has one strain per year. 

That means if a person catches COVID twice per year 6 months apart, their risk of severe complications stays elevated the entire year.  Studies show immunity to COVID only lasts only 3-4 months after severe infection, which is a disturbingly short period of time.  And if two different strains (like Delta and Omicron) are going around at the same time, you may be reinfected in even less than 3-4 months. Unfortunately, immunity from the vaccine doesn't last any longer.  

There's a lot more than can be said of COVID's effects on viral reactivation in the body (primarily herpesviruses like zoster & Epstein-Barr), immunosuppression and even things like cancer, but I wanted to keep this simple so I'll stop here. 🦠  But click those blue (red?) links to learn more about those aspects of the virus from actually reliable sources.

It should go without saying, but mask up indoors when COVID is surging and get your annual booster for COVID and flu, especially if you're over 65 or have any other health issues (obesity, Type II diabetes, lung diseases like COPD, etc).  These measures may not prevent illness entirely, but they will reduce the severity and duration of illness, keeping you out of the hospital for severe complications like pneumonia or ARDS (Acute Respiratory Distress Syndrome).  

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