Oh, To Be A Man in the Bible Belt

He would have no problem finding a willing mate in Middle America.

Just broke down sobbing at a pic of my little cousin at some event or other.  She's surrounded by people who look ecstatic to be there--her mom, friends, teachers, etc--but has the saddest blank stare on her face.  That's because my POS cousin just abandoned his family for a new girlfriend who I'm sure has no reservations about the kind of man who dumps his high school sweetheart & little girls for some random side piece while in the throes of a midlife crisis.   ❤‍🩹

Then we have the "other" situation in my family involving a controlling, abusive steroid addict who is now forever tied to one of my closest loved ones.  A loser by all accounts who's been given a hundred chances to get his shit together but has failed every time & continues to control & abuse my loved one(s).  And what does said loved one do?  Give him total control over the biggest decision of her life, wiping the slate clean as if none of it ever happened while tossing me under the bus after I supported her through it all.  💔

Of course all this is in the context of 2 of my closest friends going cock-crazy, one moving across the country without warning for a laughably pathetic dude & the other moving a drug dealer into her house & buying a gun to protect herself from his BS lifestyle as if this was all normal.  When my bestie, also a long time friend of both these classy ladies, needed a temporary place to stay when she moved back here, dealer girlfriend randomly blew up on her, taking the rage caused by her druggie bf & various other shitty male friends out on her.  So those two are effectively dead to me/us now.  🤬

THEN there's the... you know what?  Forget it.  TL;DR - Another otherwise intelligent woman takes anger out on innocent female bystander while proudly giving POS man infinite chances.  He's god, I'm Satan for reasons only she knows, but I'll bet it has something to do with money and/or dick.  😞

I've had just about enough of braindead Bible Belt bitches & their double standards.  This is just 1 of many reasons I fled from here the 1st time.  The internalized (and externalized/projected) misogyny is suffocating.  The next miserable repressed frigid skank to blow up on me or one of my female friends is gonna feel the wrath.  I don't wanna hear another mumbling word about women's empowerment, feminism, "patriarchy" or any of it as long as you're enabling these lazy, unwashed, cheating, abusive, low-IQ, knuckledragging troglodytes in your personal life.  Anybody can post a meme or write an opinionated screed.  What some of you are doing is equivalent to patting yourself on the back for being "anti-racist" while letting Klan members use your basement to prepare for their cross-burning rallies.

How nice must it be to be born male in one of these shithole flyover states?  Mommy's Golden Child, the apple of Daddy's eye, starter on coach's Friday night football team, free to rape & pillage while the community looks the other way, brushing it aside as "boys being boys?"  Who WOULDN'T behave like a psychopath under those circumstances?  They don't even have to try with women--just being a man who shows interest is enough.  As long as women enable awful men by offering a stable relationship & all the things that come with hetero marriage: maid service, shitty one-sided sex, free therapy, event planning, childcare (that includes serving as his mother figure), serving as arm candy at events & Kodak moments that make him look like an involved husband/father to the community, the fuckery will continue at our expense.  If your fear of being single or going down a notch financially is greater than your fear of enabling a terrible person/abuser, your priorities are fucked.  Grow up and stop looking for a surrogate father.  

From a Vogue article about the "Boymom phenomenon".   🤮

And it doesn't end with husbands/boyfriends/fuck buddies.  So many women favor their sons over their daughters it makes me wanna vomit.  It often borders on gross/creepy if you catch my drift.  I'm not the only one to have noticed either, which is why groups like "The Boymoms Are Getting Incesty Again" (Facebook) exist.  Reddit has its share of these groups too.  Aside from its nauseating nature, this favoritism is where the entitlement, lack of empathy & other "toxic masculinity" traits that society often bemoans come from.  It starts early & in the home, not with vulgar rap music, violent video games or other cultural shit they so love to scapegoat.

Teaching sons when they're toddlers & young school kids that their gender makes them exempt from doing chores, apologizing when they hurt someone, following the same rules regarding disrespect/cursing/fighting & other forms of rambunctious behavior as their sisters sets them up for a lifetime of bad behavior... behavior that's a lot less cute & harder to control when they're 15, 21 or 30 than 2, 6 or 11.  It's all fun and games until somebody gets gang raped, bullied to death or killed. 

Maybe you make your son do chores but chances are, if he has sisters (especially older sisters) he does approximately half as many as they do, if that.  If an argument breaks out & the parents aren't around to see who started it, who gets blamed?  Sister > brother most times.  Girls are expected to be more mature, demure & well-behaved than boys & when they're not, the punishment is often twice as harsh.  I know because I've seen this in every household of every friend I spent time with growing up as well as my own.  And it doesn't serve sons OR daughters whatsoever.  I can think of 4 examples of "pampered only sons" in families of girls who grew up to die untimely deaths of overdose, obesity or other preventable causes or who ended up doing multiple prison stints while their sisters went on to do totally normal things.  If this describes your parenting, stop treating your son as a surrogate husband & get a grip.  You're not doing it for them but for your own bizarre, unhealthy reasons.

Get help, weirdo.  

Sexism is the most pervasive, widely accepted & widely perpetuated form of inequality/discrimination on the planet, and that's because both sexes engage in it.  Some countries or regions are less barbaric than others but none are free of it.  From the staunch conservative to the bleeding heart liberal, inequality between the sexes & archaic views on women's issues are utterly pervasive.  We're an afterthought when we're considered at all, yet these spineless women continue putting males at the front & center of their pathetic co-dependent lives.  So be it. 

Just don't come crying to me when your overtly aggressive, woman-hatin mayun does "the unthinkable" and hits or kills you/your child or infects you with an incurable STD, and save the raised-fist radfem nonsense for somebody else because I don't buy it. "The personal is political" is more than just an empty slogan.  As long as you pray to a vengeful male god while lying next to an adulterous, drunken bum of a husband, treating your sons like gold & your daughters like dirt, it's nothing more than the guilty projections of a coward who knows she's selling her soul but lacks the guts to stop.  

(If I sound angry, I am.  I'm also utterly exhausted, beaten down, sick, sad & hopeless.  It's hard to believe so many women I love, respect and/or look up to are this mentally colonized.  As a 'why' person it leaves me baffled because the men they trash their lives for are often so beneath them.  Never in my life have I seen so many lowered standards & mismatches when it comes to looks, personality, intellect... you name it.  Learn how to be thirsty without drinking poison, ffs).  😓

Oh and don't shoot the (female) messenger.  If the shoe doesn't fit, nothing here will offend you because I'm not talking to you.  But if it does, perhaps it's time to look inward instead of projectile vomiting your rage all over others because how's that been working for you?  Why so angry & bitter?  Might your own actions have something to do with the state of your personal life?  Remember:  It's only disrespect if it's untrue or uncalled for.  Yes-men don't really care about you or your betterment & if you expect me to be one, you got me fucked up.