On Lesbian Representation & Bi Lies

So this was disappointing but not shocking.  My 70-something mother informed me that "lesbian" Jojo Siwa is dating a man.  Okay whatever, I thought.  Is she a singer?  Dancer?  Actress?  I've heard the name & seen the hilarious memes but never gave a shit about her in any significant way.  

One of many ridiculous Siwa memes.

But Fletcher?  Cari Fletcher, who built her entire public image & career off loving women while embracing her "masculine energy" & still being hot as fuck?  SHE is in love with a man?  Yes, and even worse, she's denounced her "old self" and credits this man with essentially turning her into a whole different person.  It reeks of corrective rape & bad marketing gimmicks.  Guess it should've been a red flag when she was asked how she identifies (lesbian, bi, straight, etc) and she said "queer", which can literally mean "straight" as an arrow if they want it to.  
  
And they wonder why so many gaybashers believe being gay is a phase.  For many women, it is.  They "experiment" with women or LARP as lesbians in college or their early 20s only to marry and have kids with a man when their biological clock starts ticking like a timebomb or the social pressure becomes too great.  "But I'm still attracted to women! Stop being biphobic," they bleat while being shamelessly lesbophobic.  FYI, nobody cares about your "attractions."  Relationships, marriage, shared mortgages, growing old together... that's where the rubber meets the road.  The person or people you choose to parent your kids or care for your beloved pets.  Who you put in your will.  THAT'S what matters, not that time you kissed a girl at a bar in 2009 while being cheered on by pervy men like a bad Katy Perry song. 

Actions, not attractions. 

Behavior  > words.  ⚤🚫🗣

And what does the celebrity-worshiping idiot mob do?  Rush to the defense of someone who wouldn't piss on them if they were on fire.  "I'm so proud of you!  It's nobody's business who you love" they regurgitate as if repeating a cult mantra or reading from a manual.  Actually, when you make your orientation & love life your entire persona/image, it IS our business.  You're a public figure so it is anyway, but that goes doubly for those who mislabel themselves to fill a niche & get rich off a marginalized community they don't even belong to.  I think the newspeak-y term is "queerbaiting", i.e. when a celebrity deliberately projects a false image to gain gay fans despite NOT being fucking gay.

For the record, I couldn't give a shit if every celebrity on Earth fell into the ocean tomorrow so I really don't care who they date or fuck.  Despite finding her incredibly sexy, I've never listened to a single line of a Fletcher song & certainly won't start now.  But it's not about their "personal lives," it's about the totaI disrespect shown to the very people who made them while they wore our real lives like a cloak to hide the fact that they're just another boring breeder//basic bitch whose only motivation is $$$.  To bougie poseurs like this, homosexuality is just a marketing ploy to sell records/concert tickets while appearing edgy & filling a gap in the market. 

Meanwhile actual lesbians are over here fighting to not have our identities hijacked by the likes of you and the trans cult.  Women in general are written smooth out of the English language with terms like "vagina haver' and "birthing person." Lesbians suffer the double insult of already having a miniscule dating pool (full of deceitful bisexuals) who call you a bigot if you exclude them as potential partners... now that tainted dating pool is also full of men in skirts insisting we date them.  I'm just sitting here wondering why bi women they don't date each other instead of fetishizing mixed orientation relationships.  If "everyone's a little bi," you should have no problem finding a mate, right?  Same applies to transwomen:  If you're really "true & honest women," why the obsession with dating us & not each other?   

It would appear that both groups want someone who's 1.) got lady parts and,  2.) has a stable identity & a 0% chance of leaving them high and dry for peen.  In other words, they want more than they can give us in return.  Hypocritical but not shocking if you've been paying attention.  

The fantasy...

I'm not some hard-ass who only dates Gold Star lesbians--I get that some people are forced or pressured into straight relationships or truly didn't realize they could have a fulfilling gay relationship until later in life.  But I don't appreciate being played for a fool either.  You know who you have the potential to be attracted to because it's what you fantasize about in your most private moments.  It's in the porn you watch, the romance novels you read, your celebrity and real-life crushes, the future relationships you imagine yourself in.  Actual lesbians want nothing more to do with men sexually than a straight man does, yet we're constantly gaslighted about this.  Let me simplify it for you confused souls:  lesbians do not now, nor will we ever be attracted to "penis-havers" or XY individuals.   Bi people of both sexes do have the potential to be attracted to these artists formerly known as "men".  Important distinction.

If you've ever been sexually attracted to the male body or romantically into men, maybe just SAY THAT upfront instead of manipulating people into believing they actually have you as a representative or devoted lesbian partner ("representation is important!" the woke mob screams.  Yeah, for everyone but lesbians).  We can't even have women-only events or dating apps, and our sports, prisons & other spaces have been utterly overrun by men in dresses who would love nothing more than to shut us up permanently by delivering a fatal blow in the boxing ring or cornering us in a 6'8 prison cell while locked up on sex assault charges. 

We sat back and watched not one but TWO XY males batter & ruin the careers of female athletes at the Olympics while the world painted them as the victims of mean TERFs & transphobes.  I think we know gaslighting & misogyny when we see it, so don't you dare tell me how to feel about these sideshow celebs using MY identity to enrich themselves.  When called out, they spit in our faces again with comments like "I don't owe you an explanation" or the equivalent of "j/k, THIS is who I really am".  

...the reality.  

Every time y'all pull this shit, you're contributing to the harmful belief that women don't know what we want, are wishy-washy or that "everyone's a little bi".  That if we meet the "right" man we'll change our ways, or if he pressures us long enough we'll eventually give in.  See how rapey those sentiments are?  That may be your truth, but it's not mine. 

Men and women are equal but not the same; ditto bisexuals & lesbian women.  Gay people miss out on a whole developmental stage... you know, that heady time in your youth where you have your first kiss, first love, prom date, 1st sexual encounter, etc.  High school is often hell for us, plus we'll never have the option of having a "traditional" wedding to a high-earning male spouse or a crapping out a baby that's the biological product of us AND our female partner.  Homophobia aside, it's fucking depressing being a minority.  And then to have the idiot masses painting YOU as the bad guy when you express justified anger that someone who wore your orientation as a costume for profit is not even gay?  Salt in the wound. 

And this needs to be said:  THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH EXCLUSIVELY DATING WOMEN WHO ARE EXCLUSIVELY ATTRACTED TO WOMEN.  Believing there is makes you a homophobe & a creep.




It's the Dishonesty for Me

^^ That part ^^

In a world where sites like JDate & Blackpeoplemeet.com are openly advertised on television, you'd expect that same respect to be extended to lesbians--another minority group.  Even "farmers" (read: rednecks & racist whites) get their own dating apps.  No such luck.  The minute we try to create female-only events, lesbian only dating apps or the like, we're hit with lawsuits & allegations of "biphobia" or "transphobia".  Name one other minority or oppressed group that is legally forbidden from congregating in public or associating with people of our choice.  Aside from convicted pedophiles, I can't think of any.  (And even THAT line is getting blurrier).  

Then here comes the faux-lesbo train carrying people like Siwa & Fletcher who were, if not lesbian icons or household names, at least an anchor in choppy seas for young lesbians.  Someone popular & beloved who represented them.  They pander to your specific demographic and sell you an image for financial gain only to later drop the bomb that, woops, all that other stuff wasn't me.  The albums, the song titles, the image--all just a girl finding her way in the world, teehee.  (Her way to dick).   

This is symptomatic of a bigger problem lesbians often face: the lies of bi women who hide fundamental facts about themselves in the name of obtaining our love, devotion or trust.  Misleading a sexual partner about something this serious is tantamount to rape.  It's no better than hiding an STD or "stealthing" and removing the condom mid-act.  If you know that the truth, ANY truth, would cause a person to NOT have sex with you and you hide it so you can fuck them anyway, that's calculating & it's rape.  Consent implies INFORMED consent, which cannot be given if you're lying by omission or straight up deceiving someone. 

Excluding anyone from your dating pool for any reason is not a phobia, it's a right we all have.  Bigotry & discrimination require the refusal or removal of basic human rights:  the right to equal housing, healthcare, marriage, employment or safety in public places.  We're all entitled to those things--trans, bi, gay, whatever.  You're not entitled to anyone's attraction, affection or sex.  Nor are you entitled to have the world address you as you'd like to be perceived or to compel the speech of others.  A man doesn't have the right to be referred to as a woman or to piss (read: mark his territory & likely masturbate) in a woman's bathroom, & bi women are not entitled to relationships or sex with lesbians.  No means no, it doesn't mean haggle with me or insult me until I change my mind (I won't, I'll only hate you more).




What Celebrities "Owe" the Public

Celebrity culture is a cesspit.

That's when it comes to intimate relationships.  Celebrities we've never met owe us nothing though, right?  Oh, just their entire career & fortune is all.  If not for fans, they'd just be another anonymous nobody flipping burgers.  They get filthy fucking rich off our support and are treated like royalty by the adoring masses.  If we gave them that money/praise under false pretenses, they should expect to be dragged from here to Hell for it & to LOSE our support when the truth is revealed.  It's no less slimy than a politician who tells you one thing to gain your vote/donations and then flips the script the minute they're in power. 

For those who are still confused:  Lesbianism is not a choice, a trendy costume, a porn category or a phase.  It's not a gimmick to sell concert tickets or "set yourself apart from the crowd".  And it is not fluid or changing.  That's bisexuality you're thinking of (yes, we homos know about the bi-cycle).  Monosexuality is thing: people can be strictly straight or gay.  Claiming otherwise is a result of taking your own worldview & applying it to others it simply doesn't fit. 

And it is NOT wrong for monosexuals to want a partner with the same orientation. If biphobia is real, it's a result of the deceitful actions of bi people in relationships & their presumptuous assertion that us gays/straights are actually just bisexual like them.  You don't see gays generalizing like this.  The only people who are 'biphobic' are bisexuals like Fletcher & Siwa who dance around their own sexuality in the name of public acceptance, all while avoiding the term 'bisexual' like the plague.  Call a spade a fucking shovel.  And if something as essential & fundamental as your own sexual orientation truly eludes you past age 12, maybe get evaluated for a Cluster B personality disorder.  "Shifting identity" is a core symptom of at least a couple & I'm getting tired of pretending it's not.  

In that same vein, I am not 'closed minded' for excluding men from my dating pool because attraction/revulsion are not a choice--they're innate & immutable.  Stop pushing bisexuality as a form of open-minded spiritual evolution.  Saying shit like "I fall in love with the soul, not the body" is no different than whites who "don't see color".  In case you haven't noticed, women are still a majorly oppressed group all over the fucking world.  Men & women are not interchangeable or identical.  If it hurts me more to be dumped for a man than a woman, you don't get to tell me my feelings are invalid. 

What Fletcher & Jojo Siwa did is exactly why so many lesbians refuse to date bisexuals--the lies, gaslighting & disrespect.  Plus the fact that between 80-90% of you will end up with a man permanently.  Those aren't great odds.  Lesbians' "lived experience" (to use another woke Gen Z term) matters as much as yours, so when you dismiss us for telling the truth about our bad experiences with bi women or downplay it by saying "we're not all like that," you're doing the very thing you accuse us of.  It's very #NotAllMen of you.  (Even men don't have an 80-90% rate of things the #MeToo movement accused them of).  Quit talking over lesbians or substituting your own worldview for ours.  We may be equal but we're not the same. 

I know this country's a shithole, but that's not what "joy" looks like.

I wish Jojo Siwa & Cari Fletcher all the success in the world with their new adoring straight/bi fanbases.  May their careers go exactly as well as that of "Elliot" Page since her stunning/brave decision to denounce her lesbianism/femaleness & LARP as a dude.    🤡

And if I sound like an angry man-hating lesbian, so be it.  If you honestly can't understand why lesbians might be a tad miffed, that shows a lack of empathy on your part, not mine.  Try stepping outside your own insular little world & into ours for a minute.